Law of attraction states that you attract what you give your energy, attention and focus to. The energy of your attention (and intention) will amplify whatever your focus is placed on. When most people are goal setting however, their focus isn’t on just doing the work, it’s mostly focused on just completing the outcome at any cost. The process of manifesting – making your visions a reality – can be magical but because of the beauty in hard work and dedication; enjoying the fruits of your labor is a great feeling. However, we live in a fast-paced society which produces this illusion that success happens overnight. The instant moment of a person’s success is what’s celebrated but very little of those who are celebrating observed what it took that person to get there. This has everybody identifying with the “hustler” mentality; what you don’t have you chase and go get it. But please hear me out when I tell you this mindset is also very counter-productive to long term growth. Hustlers make money, yes, but having money isn't the goal, freedom is. Money buys you freedom. You cannot believe in Law of Attraction and be a “hustler” at the same time. Those energies do not align. Have you ever tried to catch a butterfly? When you chase them, you scare them away. If you’ve ever caught one, you’ve noticed you had to be a bit more patient and let it come to you – view your goals in the same light.
Don't confuse patience with stagnation, we'll get more into this later. Everything is energy. Things that match in frequency will resonate, while those that don’t won’t. If you’re chasing something and so happen to catch it, you’ll end up losing it eventually if the energy doesn’t align. Compared to if you looked inward to see what needed to change within you to match its energy organically, what’s for you is going to always be for you. If you’re like me, you have no problem coming up with amazing goals you just don’t know where to start sometimes. On the contrary, you may be very good at taking action but have a hard time making your action amount to where you’re trying to get to. Either way, before you get into this read, I want you to stop thinking about the outcome for a second and start thinking about your systems - your everyday processes. I have mentioned in other reads how you’re a collection of habits. So, unless your habits change, your trajectory can’t either. True manifestation happens as a result of a person frequency change. Become high vibrational and the high vibrational things will come right to you. These tips are for those who want to create lasting change in their life not just accomplishing goals.
1. Be Clear
"I can teach anybody how to get what they want out of life. The problem is that I can't find anybody who can tell me what they want." - Mark Twain
I love this quote. I like to add on to it by saying people don’t know what they want because people don’t know who they are. Start by defining your overall trajectory. If you knew the exact date you were going to die, what would you like to be accomplished before you go? What reputation would you like to leave behind? Once that is established, think about what you’re doing now. Is what you’re doing going to eventually align with what you want to leave behind? It should. If it doesn’t, change where you’re headed. It is very important to add a definition to things, what does it mean? What does it look like? For example, a lot of people say “I just want to be happy.” What does happiness look like to you? Success is relative, different things can look different to different people. To me, happiness is measured by being able to do what I want, when I want and not having to check-in with anybody about how my day is going to go. Happiness to someone else might look like traveling every month. I know who and I am and what I want. If you don’t know who you are, it’s going to be hard to answer those questions. If that sounds like you, start by asking yourself, what are you good at? What skills do you have? What brings you joy when you’re doing it? If you don’t know these, that’s your first goal, figuring out who you are and what you want out of life.
2. Start Small
Large goals are accomplished by starting small. How do you eat an elephant? A piece at a time. It is so much easier to get 1% better every day at something then it to complete your whole goal instantly. You are naturally more motivated when you accomplish something; not accomplishing can be defeating. So, instead turn your big goals (long-term goals) into a list of small goals (short-term goals) that add up to where you’re trying to go instead of focusing on the overall outcome every day. It gives you a vision of where you are and where you’re going. For example, about 50% of people have New Year's goals of losing weight. Some of you probably said something like you’re going to start by going to the gym 3-4 times a week. That will work for a handful of you. Others may find it hard to maintain around about the end of February, beginning of March. If you’re at a weight in which you don’t like, you currently have habits that resulted in you being where you are now. The gym has always been in the same place so not exercising isn’t the problem. It’s making the conscious decision to be consistent in getting there that's maybe the problem. It’s not being in control of what you’re eating that's maybe the problem. It’s you over eating when you’re sad that may be the problem. It’s all those harbored emotions that you never let out that’s weighing you down, literally, that may be the problem. You have to try to understand the habits that put you there in the first place. So, losing weight might actually look like committing to one day a week for the first two weeks to get your brain introduced to a new habit – to force you to develop a habit in being consistent first. It might look like you just actively observing yourself for the first two weeks to innerstand when and why you start to over-eat. It’s the small things that you do every day that you don’t notice that will add up to where you are today. You just finally noticed when you decided to make that change. Start with changing small habits.
3. Think Big
“The fishing is best where the fewest go, and the collective insecurity of the world makes it easy for people to hit home runs while everyone else is aiming for base hits. There is just less competition for bigger goals.” – Timothy Ferris, The 4-Hour Workweek, Pg. 51
Get out of your comfort zone and some of y’all comfort zones are survival mode and lack. I am here to tell you to go for everything that they said you couldn’t, wouldn’t or shouldn’t. Everything is going to have a risk factor to it but being stagnant in the name of mind made up fear is the biggest risk of them all (and honestly what everybody does and who wants to be like everybody else). Thinking big is honestly a huge mindset shift and if it were easy let’s just say we’d all be millionaires by now. To think bigger then where you are, regardless of circumstances, is an important step to manifesting. You can only be what you believe you are. Sometimes our circumstances are limiting and will allow us to believe that we can’t do something. You must think bigger, think outside of where you actually are. Widen your lens on life farther then they usually go. Ask yourself more questions, instead of “I can’t afford this” think “how can I afford this?” Instead of "I'm not good at this" think "How can I get good at this?" It entertains your thought of possibility and not instantly shut it out like you’d usually do thinking small. If you’re goal is to be your own boss how long are you going to allow bills hold you into being an employee? Innerstand that you always have a choice, forget the circumstances. The timing will never be right so stop waiting for the perfect moment, the best time is always now. You have to get out of the box and think bigger. Don’t let life bully you around.
4. Confidence is Faith
Again, you can only be what you believe you are. Most of the time you can sell a person on an idea, product or service solely on how confident you are about it. Your goals need you; you don’t need them. They need you to place your energy, attention and focus on the thought that they’re going to manifest. The universe will do the rest. You’ll end up situations that will start to provide you with the opportunities you need to get ahead. Almost like God asking you how bad do you want it? You have to prove your conviction, if you look flakey when it comes to your goals, why would you expect God to grant you a blessing just so you can fumble the bag? Learn to trust your intuition. Nine times out of ten you already know what you need to do. You just don’t follow because you believe whatever else matters more than what you really think. We all had a moment where we end up in a situation that we knew we weren’t supposed to be in. What did we say? Something like "something told me not to do this” but we never listen to that something (your intuition that is!). True faith is an intense knowing that nothing can get in the way of. Have confidence in yourself and faith in your goals, they’re one in the same. You have to just know, regardless of what anyone says. Listen to yourself because most of the people you’re talking to are still thinking small, so why would you expect them to innerstand big dreams?
5. Faith Without Work is Dead.
We’ve all heard it. You cannot manifest anything that you are not ready to put the work in for. Big dreams require equivalent action. Consistently working towards your goals is a must. Plant a seed and it’ll grow with consistent water and food. Plant a seed and just stare it, well... This is why starting with small steps matter. Commit to getting 1% better every day and consistent action is so much easier to maintain. Bite size pieces of life are much easier to digest.
Together those steps will add up to build goal related habits that’ll show up in your everyday life. This is where you start to raise your vibration. One day a week in the gym turns into two days, then three. You go from a person who had no control or discipline to being body and mind strong. These habits start to become a part of who you are and now you behave in a new way when it comes to all things moments life, not just the gym. Now you should see why it was never about the outcome of losing weight, it was about changing your processes, how you show up every day. When you consistently show-up as something different, eventually you become it, therefore manifest it.
6. Be Patient
To stay consistent, patience is needed. Success doesn’t happen overnight, it happens overtime. Release this mindset if you have it. It takes time for everybody to become a new person, you don’t just wake up different. The energy of rushing comes from the need to hurry up and accomplish before some mind made up point in your life. You're either allowing society's illusion of hustle get to you or you're in comparison mode with someone else thinking you should be where they are by now. Believe it or not, you're exactly where you need to be. However, if you don't like it, let's change it. There’s things you need to learn, then apply and apply it again before you can move forward. There’s a journey for everything and you have to learn to enjoy it, it teaches you way more than being at the top could. The only way you learn to appreciate the ups are by being down, don’t rush to the top, you’re going to miss the lesson and fall right back down. If you don’t learn you will repeat the same mistakes over and over again – that’s insanity. When you start to rush, you chase the butterfly away again. Plus, if you have true faith there’s no need to rush because you know it’s on the way anyway. Also, sometimes the path doesn’t look like we want it to look so we reject it. Remember that God’s plan is better than yours, know that he’s always taking you where you want to go. He just may not be taking the roads you’re used to taking. Sit back, relax and enjoy the ride; you have things to see. Don’t miss them asking “Are we there yet?”
7. Include the Most High in Everything You Do
To effectively embody the energy of faith, confidence, trust in intuition and patience you must believe in a higher power. When you innerstand and establish your reconnection with source within yourself, manifesting becomes your everyday life. It is easy to have faith when you know God is always on your side no matter what is happening; when you know everything is happening for your greatest and highest good. It is easy to be confident when you fear nothing and no one because you are divinely protected. It is easy to trust in intuition when you know that it is your highest self speaking to you. It is easy to have patience when you recognize the divinity in every waking moment. In case you haven’t caught on yet this is what I mean by finding yourself. Finding who your soul came here to be and how you are to be of service not who society raised you to be.
Be grateful for it all. Give thanks for life and the simple things like the opportunity to breathe every morning. Give thanks for even the bad times because they taught you valuable lessons. Do not focus on what you don’t have. If you attract what you give your energy, attention and focus to, when you focus on lack, that’s what you attract – more lack. Change your perspective, focus on what you do have so you can attract more of that. Accept what is. Please read, How to Find Yourself Authentically, if you haven’t done so already. Know that you are where you are because of you, not because of God, not your parents or anyone/anything else. Do everything with good intention and integrity. Things won’t always turn out in your favor but it’s about what you meant to do. Bad results manifested in good intention are rewarded. Lastly, always check-in. Talk to God – in the same breath talk to yourself. You have questions ask. Remember, God speaks to us through us, ask and you shall receive – if you’re listening.
Talk soon! I can't wait to see what we accomplish together. 🥂